Ferrara,Italy: Approximately 25% of female infertility cases are unexplained, which causes women to have a very few options other than expensive fertility treatments. Alcohol, caffeine and bad diet have all been linked to poor fertility, but up until now no one has blamed the humble kiss. But now, a team at the University of Ferrara in Italy says kisses may be the reason for unexplained infertility in women. A not-so-known herpes virus can be transmitted through the saliva, and can make women infertile. They examined the uteruses of women with unexplained primary infertility - the inability ever to bear a child - and found that 43 per cent of them were infected byHHV-6A, one of the human herpes viruses. The virus was not found in any of the women whose fertility was normal. Infertility affects approximately 6 per cent of women aged from 15 to 44. The virus is typically not detectable in the blood or saliva, so its true prevalence is unknown. However it replicates in the salivary glands and previous research indicates it can be transferred through kissing. "Indeed, there are several potential mechanisms by which HHV-6 might induce female infertility. Viral infections might trigger eNK cell functional modifications that could also induce aberrant expression of cytokines thereby promoting a dysfunctional uterine environment,” said the study’s senior author, Roberta Rizzo. Published in the journal Plos One, the study describes how all the women infected with HHV-6A were found to have abnormal levels of cytokines, which are signalling proteins that facilitate interactions between cells that play an important role in supporting fertilised eggs and foetal development. The team says more research is now needed to confirm the findings, which came from a cohort of 66 women, and to determine whether antiviral treatment would help women with the uterine infection. The scientists also found higher levels of the hormone estradiol, which fluctuates with the menstrual cycle and may trigger the HHV-6A infection. “This is a surprising discovery,” said Anthony Komaroff, a professor at Harvard Medical School who has studied HHV-6. “If confirmed, the finding has the potential to improve the outcome for a large subset of infertile women.”
Manila: Some 350 Filipino couples were married in a mass civil wedding on Friday in Manila’s commercial district of Malate, two days ahead of the Valentine’s Day. One septuagenarian couple, each aged 74 years old, took their wedding vows at the government-sponsored ceremony in San Andres Sports Complex after 42 years of living together out of wedlock, EFE news reported. “We could not get married before because our families did not allow us,” said Eduardo Munoz, 74, explaining that his family was Roman Catholic while his partner Angelina Manalo belongs to the Philippine Independent Church, a local religious sect that experienced a schism with the Catholic Church in 1902. “As soon as I saw her, I was attracted to her, but her parents did not allow her to marry me because I was not one of them, so we did not go to the altar out of respect for our elders,” said Munoz, adding joyously “Now our elders are all dead … So we can do whatever we want!” The 2.5-hour nuptial rites were officiated in the flower-decked gymnasium by former president and incumbent Manila Mayor Joseph Estrada with over 1,000 friends and family members of the brides and grooms attending. “It was very lively and happy, with a lot of jokes. The government even gave a flower bouquet and a small money gift in an envelope to each of the newlyweds,” said an attendee. Mass weddings are often organised in the Philippines by local governments under the Civil Registrar Offices nationwide to help impoverished couples take their wedding vows. “Many of these people are here because they want to formalise their relationship, but have no money to even pay a church to marry,” said Joey Cabresa, the director of the Registrar’s Office for the city of Manila, which spent 350,000 pesos ($7,300) on the nuptial rites for the 350 couples. “We host this type of ceremony whenever we can, because for Filipinos, family and unity are very important,” Cabresa added.
For any uncommon human behaviour there is usually the explanation you get from the person who does it and the real motive behind it. In order to understand human behaviour you need to forget about the words people say and focus on understanding the way their brains work. After all a showy person isn't going to tell you that he married a blond in order to show off but he will tell you that he fell in love with her (and he won't be lying). Ask any man who prefers older women why he gets attracted to them and most probably he will give you a reason that has nothing to do with his real motives simply because he doesn't understand his own motives. The second thing you need to know about human behaviour is that more than one person can engage in the same behaviour for different reasons. This means that two men could get attracted to older women for two completely different reasons. Why do some men prefer older women? Here are some reasons 1. In need of a mother figure: Human beings use love to satisfy their most important unmet needs. If a man didn't get enough nurturing from his mother or if his mother was absent in a way or another then he might start getting attracted to older women. Because the subconscious mind believes that an older woman can provide that man with the love he was deprived of it will make him attracted to older women . 2. Childhood & past experiences Spoiled children, only children and the ones who were showered with excessive care might develop the need to be taken care of and this need might remain even when they become adults. In such a case those men might get attracted to older women because they want someone to take care of them the same way they got used to 3. Raising their self esteem: Older women usually have less choices and as a result they become more devoted to their men. This kind of devotion raises the self esteem of that man since the woman he is with idolizes him and showers him with attention. 4. To feel superior: Some men seek older women in order to feel superior. After all managing to attract someone from a parallel world can provide a strong Ego boost to most people. I once met a guy in his late twenties and he was showing off about his ability to attract women in forties. This made him feel special or superior to his peers. This feeling becomes stronger if this woman had a high status and because many old woman have good careers their status is usually higher than the status of younger women. 5. Sexual Fantasies: Men are turned on by sexual novelty and they usually get bored if they remained with the same partner throughout their life time. Men will always go after novel and new experiences if they had the chance. Being with an older woman is one of the sexual phases that many men will pass through and as a result they might find themselves only attracted to them.
New Delhi: Kissing is now more dangerous than the deadly puff of smoke you inhale. According to a report published in Dail Mail online, locking lips can lead to the development of head and neck cancer. Reportedly, an infection which goes by the name of Human papilloma virus (HPV) gets transmitted through kissing. Oral HPV can be passed on through oral sex and French kissing. According to Daily Mail reports, those who are infected with HPV in the oropharynx have 250 times higher cancer risk than others. HPV is commonly associated with cervical cancers and it affects both male and female. As a matter of fact, there are more than 100 forms of the virus present, but only about eight containing the ‘high risk’ strains of HPV can cause cancers in the oropharynx, reports suggest. Australian head and neck surgeon, Dr Mahiban Thomas said that recent studies suggested even engaging in ‘petting’ without sexual interaction could transfer HPV. In what could ring an alarm bell for many, Dr Thomas revealed that the risk of contracting the deadly HPV virus increases with the number of French kissing partners you have had in a lifetime.
Boston : There is a strong argument that raising kids and looking after the family have always been considered to be a woman’s job and not the man’s. Thankfully, all that is gradually changing now. It is a very generalised and blinkered notion that working mothers are unable to maintain a family as smoothly as non-working mothers. This notion has more to do with the fact Discrediting that notion is a working paper published by the Harvard Business School, which states that daughters of women who work are more likely to be employed, earn more and hold more supervisory positions than daughters of women who are not employed. The study also shows that sons of working mothers are more likely to spend their time caring for family and helping out with household chores. As reported by Quartz, the study also showed that daughters of working mothers are 4.5% more likely to be employed than daughters of non-working mothers. The data for the research has been collected from 24 countries. In the US, daughters of working mothers earn $5,200 more than daughters of stay-at-home mothers. Professor of Business Administration tells Quartz “We did expect that it would effect employment but we didn’t expect that it would effect supervisory responsibility”. She further added “What I take away is that employed mothers create an environment in which their children’s attitudes on what is appropriate for girls to do and what is appropriate for boys to do is affected”.
California : Resuming sex with partner after childbirth may be a matter of two months on an average but when passion does return to the bedroom again, it comes with a new vigour, enabling couples to enjoy the act of lovemaking more, new research suggests. A study of 1,118 couples with children showed that 94% said they were satisfied with their sex lives and nearly 60% said that it actually got better after childbirth. But new parents on an average wait for about 58 days before they resume sex with their partner, according to the study. Although most women fear that their partner would not find them attractive after childbirth, the findings of the survey conducted by Britain-based parenting site Channel Mum showed that men actually prefer their partner’s post-birth figure as it is more curvy and fuller. Just 14% of new mothers feel body confident after giving birth, Daily Mail reported citing the study. “Having a baby is the biggest change you can bring into a relationship, so it is wonderful to see it can bring couples closer together rather than drive them apart,” Siobhan Freegard, founder of Channel Mum, was quoted as saying. The research, however, showed that men are more keen to have sex after the wait than women. While fathers want sex twice a week on average, mothers remain content with sex just once a week.
Is sex an uplifting, rejuvenating, life-affirming, deeply pleasurable, trans formative experience for you? If it isn’t, you’re doing it wrong. We live in a culture with a wildly bipolar relationship to sex. Sex is everywhere: in film, television, pop songs, advertising. Yet, we’re also told that we’re not allowed to have it and enjoy it. It is understandable that most people have conflicting beliefs about sex. Unless you take the time to examine what stands in the way of you and the ideal I described above, you won’t get there. Everyone can have an intimate relationship with themselves and their partner that is soul-nourishing and infuses every part of their lives with powerful and revitalizing energy. This is natural. Avoiding sex, feeling like it’s a minor or inconsequential part of an intimate relationship, experiencing guilt and anxiety: Not natural. Sex is the glue in your relationship. Sex is your vital, life force energy. If it isn’t being channeled and enjoyed, chances are that you are living a lackluster life. I guarantee that you’ll have a lackluster marriage or relationship. Here are five areas to look at in clearing your sexual blocks to open yourself up to your true, radiant and sensual nature: 1) Heal any past trauma. Sexual abuse, wounding and boundary violations all create an energy of defensiveness or body armor. Your true nature will be buried beneath the residue of this protection until you consciously address and heal what happened. There are many forms of therapy, coaching, neural pathway re-wiring and energy work that can help. Seek them out. 2) Examine your belief systems. As I said earlier, we live in a culture where we receive mixed messages about sex. One of the biggest sources of sexual condemnation and judgment (with plenty of its own conflicting beliefs) is religion. If you have internalized any of these beliefs—and I think it’s difficult to grow up in this culture and not—you’ll be living them, even if it’s unconscious. Ask yourself: How do I feel about sex? Where is this belief coming from? Is that what I truly believe, or have I been conditioned to believe that? You get to choose and recreate your beliefs. As an exercise, create your own sexual manifesto composed of all the things you want to embody in your intimate relationship. Frame it and post it above your bed. 3) Go inside. You can’t go deep and fearless with another person unless you can go there in yourself. Meditation and yoga are two great tools to bring your attention inward to face the parts of yourself you may have been avoiding. Both practices offer a gentle way to reconnect with your inner being and live more from that place. Spend time daily, whether it’s a formal, sit-down meditation, a walk-in-the-woods meditation or a masturbation-meditation (yes, some people use this form of self-love as a spiritual practice) to go inward. If it’s yoga, commit to a daily routine—even if it’s four minutes as you get out of bed. 4) Yoga. To build on the last point, yoga is incredible in opening you up to your own energetic flow. I love how it stretches open the hips and heart—your tools of the intimacy trade—expanding their capacity for love and pleasure. Yoga will hunt down your blocks and tight areas (I believe all stored tension has an emotional or psychological component to it) and release it. With a regular practice, you keep your system efficiently processing and integrating experiences. You tap into your own natural rhythm of being. Being sexually free and open is part of the natural rhythm of your being. 5) Cultivate a practice of letting go. The best sex is a sanctuary in which two people let down their guards to be completely naked with each other. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is hotter, sexier and more f**able than being totally, authentically present with someone. “Letting go” encompasses many things: being able to emotionally express yourself, forgiving people, dealing well with stress in an easygoing way, releasing self-doubt and playing small. The list goes on. The more you embody letting go in all aspects of your life, it carries over into the sexual realm. This, perhaps more than any other factor, is what takes sex from the junk food to the gourmet, the merely physical to the transcendental. How much you can peel back your layers and show up as the raw, unobstructed, no-hiding version of you, determines how much you enjoy sex. It’s that simple. That’s what makes it one of the most powerful methods I know for self-actualization. Sex isn’t some incidental part of your life or relationship: it’s a massive tool you can use to transform every part of you and unfold into the person you were meant to be.
Thiruvananthapuram: 55-cr wedding took place on Thursday (November 26) in of Kerala for the daughter of Ravi Pillai, head of RP Group, a leader in construction, mining and education. Ravi Pillai one of the richest Keralites, Pillai is spending around 55 crores for the big-fat wedding of his daughter. The festivities of this extravaganza were planned by the production designer of the bollywood’s record breaker movie ‘Bahubali’. A week-long ceremony hosted 30,000 guests inside a 350,000 sq ft pandal and showcased the dance performances by Malayalam film actresses Manju Warrier and Sobhana, with a musical show conducted by Stephen Devassy. The spendings on weddings also include Rs 10 crore for humanitarian initiatives to help cancer patients. Around 42 global leaders, including Royal members from the Middle-East, CEOs of various companies, government representatives, politicians, film stars, technocrats and diplomats attended marriage. The wedding set, spread over eight acres, has cost more than Rs 20 crore. The pandal was made by a team of 200 professionals led by film art director Sabu Cyril.
Do you find it hard to let yourself be vulnerable in a relationship? Fear of intimacy is the main reason people do not open up emotionally with another person. I define intimacy as feeling safe with another person when you expose who you are to them. Intimacy involves protecting your loved one rather than exploiting their vulnerabilities. More than sex there are a huge range of emotions and behaviors that enhance the intimacy, or deepening, of your relationship. Your own feelings are the key to discovering what intimacy-building behaviors will work for you. If you want a closer, deeper and more emotionally safe relationship, make a decision to identify your feelings and share them with your partner. Here are a few practical tips for discovering and sharing your emotions with your partner: 1. Identify your feelings. How can you put your finger on what you're feeling? Become aware of your body's movements and sensations. Are you feeling a tightness in your chest? Does your heart hurt? Are you smiling or frowning? Once you notice your body's sensation, you can pinpoint the feeling associated with it. You can find many terms to describe your feelings through a quick Google search. Look up "feeling words" and pick a list of terms you identify with. Keep an emotional tracker and jot down words four or five times a day. Document what you are feeling at breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtime for one week and look for any trends or patterns. 2. Talk about it. After identifying your feelings you can choose to share them with your primary love interest or partner. If this is new to you, you are going to feel uncomfortable, which is normal. The more you practice sharing your feelings the more natural it will feel. You always have the choice to not share your feelings. By withholding your feelings, you are choosing to limit the level of intimacy between you and your partner. Your partner can't know the real you unless you let them into your world by opening up. 3. Listen. Sharing your feelings is the starting point. You also can choose to listen to your partners feelings. This may be challenging if you have not done this before. You will want to give your undivided attention. Listening to your partner is not the time to multitask (playing a video game while watching TV and trying to listen to your partner at the same time will not work well.) Turn off the technology and maintain eye contact with your partner. Listen to understand your partner's feelings. 4. Validate each other's feelings. Validating feelings helps a person to trust their own emotions. Rule of thumb: listen and repeat back your partner's feelings in your own words, expressing that you understood what you heard. Ask your partner if he wants advice or ideas for problem-solving. Be ready for him to say no. 5. Expect to make mistakes. Learn from your relational mistakes. Each emotional or behavioral mistake is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and your partner. Learning about each other's feelings is the way to develop your emotional intelligence. The more you learn, the deeper your relational intimacy becomes. 5. Expect to make mistakes. Learn from your relational mistakes. Each emotional or behavioral mistake is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and your partner. Learning about each other's feelings is the way to develop your emotional intelligence. The more you learn, the deeper your relational intimacy becomes.
You may have crushes, but are you really in love with him or her? With your head spinning from all the heart-shape chocolates and red roses, it can be tough to figure out. Fortunately, scientists have pinned down exactly what it means to "fall in love." Researchers have found that an in-love brain looks very different from one experiencing mere lust, and it's also unlike a brain of someone in a long-term, committed relationship. Studies led by Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and one of the leading experts on the biological basis of love, have revealed that the brain's "in love" phase is a unique and well-defined period of time, and there are 13 telltale signs that you're in it. 1. "This one's special" When you're in love, you begin to think your beloved is unique. The belief is coupled with an inability to feel romantic passion for anyone else. Fisher and her colleagues believe these single-mindedness results from elevated levels of central dopamine a chemical involved in attention and focus in your brain. 2. "She's perfect" People who are truly in love tend to focus on the positive qualities of their beloved, while overlooking his or her negative traits. They also focus on trivial events and objects that remind them of their loved one, day-dreaming about these precious little moments and mementos. This focused attention is also thought to result from elevated levels of central dopamine, as well as a spike in central norepinephrine, a chemical associated with increased memory in the presence of new stimuli. 3. "I'm a wreck!" As is well known, falling in love often leads to emotional and physiological instability. You bounce between exhilaration, euphoria, increased energy, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, trembling, a racing heart and accelerated breathing, as well as anxiety, panic and feelings of despair when your relationship suffers even the smallest setback. These mood swings parallel the behavior of drug addicts. And indeed, when in-love people are shown pictures of their loved ones, it fires up the same regions of the brain that activate when a drug addict takes a hit. Being in love, researchers say, is a form of addiction. 4. "Overcoming the challenge made us closer" Going through some sort of adversity with another person tends to intensify romantic attraction. Central dopamine may be responsible for this reaction, too, because research shows that when a reward is delayed, dopamine-producing neurons in the mid-brain region become more productive. 5. "I'm obsessed with him" People who are in love report that they spend, on average, more than 85 percent of their waking hours musing over their "love object." Intrusive thinking, as this form of obsessive behavior is called, may result from decreased levels of central serotonin in the brain, a condition that has been associated with obsessive behavior previously. (Obsessive-compulsive disorder is treated with serotonin-reuptake inhibitors.) 6. "I wish we could be together all the time" People in love regularly exhibit signs of emotional dependency on their relationship, including possessiveness, jealousy, fear of rejection, and separation anxiety. 7. "I hope we stay together forever" They also long for emotional union with their beloved, seeking out ways to get closer and day-dreaming about their future together. 8. "I'd do anything for her" People who are in love generally feel a powerful sense of empathy toward their beloved, feeling the other person's pain as their own and being willing to sacrifice?, anything for the other person. 9. "Would he like this outfit?" Falling in love is marked by a tendency to reorder your daily priorities and/or change your clothing, mannerisms, habits or values in order for them to better align with those of your beloved. 10. "Can we be exclusive?" Those who are deeply in love typically experience sexual desire for their beloved, but there are strong emotional strings attached: The longing for sex is coupled with possessiveness, a desire for sexual exclusivity, and extreme jealousy when the partner is suspected of infidelity. This possessiveness is thought to have evolved so that an in-love person will compel his or her partner to spurn other suitors, thereby insuring that the couple's courtship is not interrupted until conception has occurred. 11. "It's not about sex" While the desire for sexual union is important to people in love, the craving for emotional union takes precedence. A study found that 64 percent of people in love (the same percentage for both sexes) disagreed with the statement, “Sex is the most important part of my relationship with my partner." 12. "I feel out of control" Fisher and her colleagues found that individuals who report being "in love" commonly say their passion is involuntary and uncontrollable. 13. "The spark is gone" Unfortunately, being in love usually doesn't last forever. It's an impermanent state that either evolves into a long-term, codependent relationship that psychologists call "attachment," or it dissipates, and the relationship dissolves. If there are physical or social barriers inhibiting partners from seeing one another regularly for example, if the relationship is long-distance then the "in love" phase generally lasts longer than it would otherwise.
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